Gestational surrogacy is defined as creating an embryo in a laboratory setting and then implanting it into the uterus of a surrogate. The surrogate mother shares no DNA or genetic relationship with the baby. Nowadays, most surrogacies are done through gestational surrogacy and with this come many misconceptions. Below are a few of the most popular myths debunked!
1. Women only become surrogates to make money
This is typically the most common opinion in the general population. A woman who chooses to be a surrogate is making sacrifices, using her ability to bring a child into this world, and showing a need to help others. It's not something to take lightly. The monetary compensation is there to support a surrogate and her family through this rigorous yet fulfilling process.
2. Surrogates use their own egg
Gestational surrogates do NOT use their own egg. The egg is from either the intended mother or is anonymously donated by another female. Once fertilized, the embryo is implanted into the surrogate's uterus. There is no genetic relationship whatsoever.
3. Surrogates are responsible for doing anything their IPs ask of them
This is another common misconception. During the match meeting, all criteria and expectations are agreed upon prior to moving forward. This includes choices to be made medically, nutritionally, and other requests made by the intended parents or surrogates. Before moving forward, both parties will know what is expected of them and sign contracts.
4. Most women become attached to the baby and have a hard time giving it up
Before a surrogate does her transfer (when the embryo is implanted) she goes through a series of screenings. One of these screenings is psychological. She is interviewed by a licensed professional to make sure she understands the process she is about to go through, and to highlight any conditions that might make her an unsuitable surrogate. In our experience, one of the most joyous parts of a surrogate's journey is watching the parents hold their baby for the first time. Knowing they helped make that possible- that's what drives our surrogates.
5. The parents struggle to bond with their baby after delivery
Instead of labeling this as a surrogacy problem, let's face the facts. Everyone is different. Parents have a special way they bond with their children. Some bond instantly while others may take some time. If the parents are present at the time of the birth, skin-to-skin contact can help boost the connection in such an intimate way.
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